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Second Chance Romance by Olivia Dade
3 May 2026 10:00 amThis guest review is from Danielle Fritz! Danielle is a former librarian who has a special affection for children’s lit and books about the funeral industry. She first cut her criticism teeth as a fanfic writer. A resident of the upper midwest, she’s learned to love beer and tater tot casserole and tolerate long winters. Most nights will find her cuddled up with her pups and wearing out her wrists with yet another crochet project.
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Second Chance Romance is the second of Olivia Dade’s Harlot’s Bay series. I really enjoyed the first title, At First Spite, which featured a cute lil spite house, the clever Athena and her ex-fiance’s sweet brother Matthew. Second Chance Romance centers on a character introduced in the previous book, the grumpy-with-a-heart-of-gold Karl, a baker and childhood friend of Matthew. When we’re introduced to Karl in At First Spite, one of the first things we learn is that he listens to monster fucking romances in the early hours of his baking shift, and on speakers no less. It’s implied that Karl has a mysterious attachment to these audiobooks.
Second Chance Romance introduces Molly, a freelance audiobook narrator, and Karl’s high school friend. Unlike Karl, Molly isn’t a Harlot’s Bay native, and moved to the town as a teen after a long series of moves for her parents’ jobs. Their friendship blossomed after Molly unexpectedly defended Karl from a teacher’s accusations of cheating. They’re quick friends, with an unusual dynamic. Where Karl has a fiery temper, long-established roots in the community, and a deep sense of duty, Molly is calmer, teases with snark, and is careful to avoid attachments. This is less of a golden retriever/black cat romance and more of a grumbly black cat/aloof tabby cat pairing, which I loved to see. Haters can find love too!!
Despite harboring crushes for one another in school, they never managed to move beyond friendship, and at the start of the book they’ve been out of touch for almost twenty years. There’s no dramatic falling out behind their disconnect, though the decision to stop talking was deliberate on Molly’s part. But even all these years later, Karl’s still got a massive crush for his old friend. Those monster fucking audibooks he listens to while icing cookies and kneading dough? Molly narrates them.
In the present day, Molly is two years divorced from her cheating ex who broke up with her as soon as he graduated med school (which Molly funded). She has a major renovation underway in her L.A. home, along with some potential health issues impacted by increased stress. This stress is heightened when another high school friend reaches out to tell her Karl has died. With little thought, Molly abruptly flies back to Harlot’s Bay on the East Coast, intent on paying her respects to her old pal. Only to find him at his bakery, very much alive and exuberantly happy to see her. The reports of his death were the result of a nosey reporter at the town’s paper mishearing bakery staff explain Karl’s absence due to a bout of flu the week prior.
Regardless of her motives, Karl takes Molly’s unexpected arrival as an opportunity to right the mistakes of his past — namely, dating her. Now adults, they’re quick to admit their attraction and affection for one another, which is refreshing to read after so many second chance titles where the topic is danced around. Yet Molly isn’t looking to jump into another relationship after being blind-sided by her recent divorce. She is, however, down to have no-strings-attached sex.
But Karl wants a full-on relationship, wants Molly to stay. So he proposes an alternative: instead of a one night stand, the pair embark on four weeks of trust building exercises, with their deadline of their high school reunion at the end of the month. When Molly feels like she trusts Karl, they can do the deed. Of course, Karl hopes the venture will convince Molly to leave L.A. for good and start a relationship with him in Harlot’s Bay.
So the trust exercises begin. And these are like, corporate retreat team-building activities, which was hilarious to see in a romance. After fumbling the first exercise in which they learn that Karl has incredibly poor communication skills, and explore Molly’s deep-seeded trust issues, they eventually find their groove. It takes less than the full month to make their way to mutual trust, and thankfully, amazing sex.
The first time the characters have sex, I found myself giggling. There’s also a competitiveness about giving pleasure between Molly and Karl, so much so Molly at one point basically pounces face-first into Karl’s lap after he’s been excessively giving. I love it when depictions of intimacy are funny and a bit awkward, because in my experience that is how sex is more often than not.
I really love how this author writes her sex scenes. We don’t get an abundance of cliches, like “sensitive nub” and “thrust his member to the hilt.” Bodies are written about in realistic and relatable ways. In Second Chance both characters are confident, have ownership of their sexuality and bodies. They also have pretty average bodies, who still manage to *gasp* admire one another’s features.
In Molly’s POV, she repeatedly admires Karl’s thick thighs, which isn’t a feature I often see heroines consider. Molly herself is a plus-sized woman, and Karl loves her body in a way that isn’t “despite,” objectifying or fetishizing. As a fat woman partnered to a physically thinner man, it was relatable and refreshing to see my own experience mirrored back to me.
Speaking of sex, let’s talk food porn! Karl is not especially good at verbalizing his feelings, but he’s all about showing his affection through service and helping others. This comes up repeatedly through his custom bakery creations for Molly, including but not limited to: lavender-white chocolate lattes, goat cheese/pickled pear/arugula/honey croissant sandwiches, mint and berry balsamic salads, pavlovas with plums in orange-rosemary syrup and vanilla bean whipped cream…. The descriptions made me very hungry for fresh pastries at 11pm when fresh pastries are not to be bought.
Better than the food itself, however, was the depiction of a fat heroine enjoying a variety of food without shame. Karl took pride in culinary creations, and Molly ate with pleasure. There was absolutely no commentary on her dietary choices, which in my opinion, is how food and eating should be treated in literature and real life. And it’s so nice to read a book with fat characters where they’re not second-guessing themselves, not embarrassed or struggling with their body image. They’re just living life in their larger bodies.
If there’s one gripe I have about Second Chance Romance, it’s how thick the characters’ issues were applied. At some points I felt like I was being beaten over the head with reminders of how terrible Karl is at communication, or depictions of how guarded and mistrustful Molly is, especially with men. Communication is a very common and relatable issue relationships face, but here it was just over-emphasized like readers weren’t trusted to pick up on the problem or remember it between chapters. I felt like there wasn’t really a good analysis into why Karl sucks or is outright reluctant to communicate his feelings, not that poor communication skills necessarily have a clear-cut motive. But the root of Molly’s trust issues is clearly spelled out, which made the motive for Karl’s weaknesses less clear.
I also took issue with the character’s initial estrangement. The abrupt break happened over a misunderstanding that could have very easily been resolved had either character bothered to interrogate it. And while we know one struggles to clearly express themselves and the other has a predisposition to expect the worst, the reasoning felt flimsy versus a “we just fell out of touch” like a lot of high school friends do. While it’s incredibly common for characters in romance to break up over misunderstandings (how many times have you gotten to that inevitable scene and howled “JUST TALK TO ONE ANOTHER FOR THE LOVE OF GOD?”), for some reason the miscommunication here was even more frustrating.
Maybe it’s because we’re shown over and over that despite their weaknesses, Karl and Molly are pretty emotionally mature people, who are sensitive to others’ needs. Yes, they have their flaws, but we get to know them as reasonable and generous. So it makes little sense for them to be so pigheaded when it comes to the person they utterly adore. It was a detail that really irked me, despite all of the other good things the book has to offer.
On the plus side, if you hate a third-act breakup, Second Chance Romance has more of what I’d call a third act pause. It’s very short — like, under a dozen pages, I think, — and doesn’t leave readers in complete agony.
Small town romances aren’t always my cup of tea (especially after growing up in a stifling tiny town), but throw in some quirks, colorful citizens, weird traditions and I’ll bite. Harlot’s Bay has a lot of historical charm, including but not limited to a weekly karaoke featuring 18th century versions of pop favorites.
“This one sounds familiar!” Under normal circumstances, she wouldn’t shout like this, since babying her throat meant she could narrate two books a week instead of one. But since she was off for the entire month, who gave a shit? “Is that—no, don’t tell me—”
“‘WAP.’” Lise had been drinking the tavern’s famous ginger ale all night, probably so she could stay alert enough to ward off any attempts to haul her onstage. After another sip from her brown glass bottle, she grinned at Molly. “‘Weird-Ass Pianoforte.’”
There’s also references to a pair of rival sex shops, who regularly send each other cakes iced with rude messages (I dearly hope Dade tells that love story next). We get repeat cameos from the geriatric journalist who originally reports Karl’s demise and is overzealous with her camera. And a romance bookclub entitled the Nasty Wenches reappears from the first book, just in the midst of a monster fucking themed month. Picturing the elderly club members reading My Kangaroo, My Kidnapper: A Dark Shifter Romance definitely made me chuckle. Details like this just make me fall even more in love with a series.
I think the charming setting just adds to the wholesome characters and great sex, creating one warm and fuzzy love story. If you’re looking for a relatively lighthearted, slow-stakes romance read, I think this is an exceptional pick. Overally, Second Chance Romance had its weird Romance Reasons
moments, but was pretty down-to-earth and fun. I look forward to Dade’s next entry into the series!
SBTB Bestsellers: April 18 – May 1
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- Useless Etymology by Jess Zafarris Amazon | B&N | Kobo
- How to Fake It in Society by KJ Charles Amazon | B&N | Kobo
- Forever My Duke by Olivia Drake Amazon | B&N | Kobo | GooglePlay
- A Fine Scottish Time by Maeve Greyson Amazon | B&N
- Change of Plans by Dylan Newton Amazon | B&N | Kobo
- Book People by Jackie Ashenden Amazon | B&N | Kobo
- Silent in the Grave by Deanna Raybourn Amazon | B&N | Kobo
- The Love of My Afterlife by Kirsty Greenwood Amazon | B&N | Kobo
- Love on a Bookshelf by Kiah Thomas Amazon | B&N | Kobo
- The Very Secret Sex Lives of Medieval Women by Rosalie Gilbert Amazon | B&N | Kobo
I hope your weekend reading was cozy!
Am I lost inside my mind?
2 May 2026 11:20 pm( I hear the river say your name. )
Physically I am just pretty miserable, but the lilac is breaking out in real bloom and Rob has been showing me potato-quality Deep Space Nine (1993–99). I had tarragon-sautéed mushrooms and zucchini for dinner.
May reccers
3 May 2026 10:56 amMany thanks to
Our May reccers are:
Reccers, you all have access and can start posting at any time. Remember that you have committed yourself to reccing at least two fics over the course of the month, although of course we will be happy with more. Feel free to use the copy-and-paste template from the reccer's FAQ for your convenience.
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This is the April May 3rd Weekly Megapost & Chat!
3 May 2026 02:51 amThings you can do in the comments-
- trade friend codes
- ask about games
- post about in-game events
- anything you don't want to make an individual post about
- share how the RNG is treating you
Exchange things!
2 May 2026 10:46 pmAnyway, I had fun and I ended up writing 5 things across both that and my main account - two of which are for fandoms I've never written before! And I got two delightful gifts as AltSholio:
Bygones (Agent Carter, 200 wds, Jack & Peggy)
A sweet little season 2 coda, very much in character.
We'll Meet Again (Biggles, 600 wds)
Slightly AU next meeting for Biggles and EvS, set in the early 1920s. Great characterization and a delightful concept!
Author reveals will be on Tuesday.
Daily Happiness
2 May 2026 07:45 pm2. Across the street from the bike shop is a pizza place that looked enticing, so we went over there for lunch after. We got three slices to share, but their slices are huge and cut up into three pieces each, so we had some to take home.

One was acorn squash, one was potato, sage, and truffle, and the last was proscuitto, pineapple, and jalapeño. All three were delicious, but the potato might be my favorite. I wish more places had potato pizza around here.
3. A couple months ago I saw a post about how Microsoft was going to be raising the price of the Office 365 subscription due to all their unnecessary AI stuff, but that the non-subscription version of Office was on sale. Since I don't need more than the basics, the non-subscription version really is fine and I'm not sure why I didn't get that to begin with. So I bought it and then as it got closer to my renewal time, I went to cancel the subscription only to find I couldn't. I purchased this over ten years ago and did the subscription through the Excel app itself, which apparently charged me through Best Buy, but didn't actually set me up a Best Buy account or anything. I've been paying for it every year through auto-renew, but have no access to any subscriptions on Best Buy, and according to Microsoft, since it was purchased through them, that's the only way to manage my subscription. Best Buy chat and phone customer service was unable to help with this weird issue, and just suggested I cancel the credit card so that the next auto-renew bounces. So yesterday I reported my card lost and now I have the annoyance of having to redo the card info on any sites I was using it on, but at least I won't have this stupid subscription anymore.
4. Speaking of subscriptions, I finally bit the bullet and cancelled Netflix. We really never use it but I keep thinking about some Netflix shows like Disenchantment that I want to watch again, but they raised their prices again and I really don't want to pay $20 a month just because at some point I might want to rewatch one or two shows. So it's done. If we want to rewatch something, we can torrent it.
5. I put our old bikes up on Nextdoor last week and got a flurry of scammy responses about Carla's bike but no real takers (and none at all for mine), so I put them both up on Craigslist today and mine sold right away. I paid like $400 for it originally but it's been 12 years so even though it's in great shape, I just listed it for $100.
6. One of the Little Libraries we passed on our walk tonight had some puzzles in it so I brought two of them home with me. Not so exciting that I would have bought them on my own, but for free puzzles, they seemed nice enough.
7. It's hard to see, but Chloe's got a little blep going on.

Unshelved strip originally published on Fri, 18 Mar 2016
3 May 2026 12:00 amThis classic Unshelved strip originally appeared on Fri, 18 Mar 2016.

but you don't want 'em too nervous
2 May 2026 07:15 pmThe frosting did curdle, though (pic). I think maybe whipping it so long (I had to do it for more like 14 minutes than 5 - 7 to get it light) raised the temperature too much. There are tips on how to fix it, but since it was just an experiment and no one else is going to see them, I didn't bother. The frosted cupcakes are in the fridge, and I'm sure that will help. If you're looking for a super easy, pipeable frosting, this could be the one for you!
I also made myself a plate of nachos for dinner, and they were delicious but super messy, so not the best idea when I eat dinner on the couch every night.
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2 May 2026 04:55 pma.) Aster is indeed a longtime friend, and also
b.) both the book and Sage-as-protagonist are drawing explicit inspiration from many other teen-girl-writer bildungsromans (I Capture the Castle, the Montmaray trilogy, the collected oeuvre of LM Montgomery, etc.) that are beloved old friends to me, and also
c.) every character and interpersonal dynamic in this book does indeed feel like an exact portrait of someone I either was or knew in high school, with pitch-perfect and sometimes painful accuracy
Sage Perrault, Our Heroine, is an imaginative, judgmental misanthrope from a small town in Minnesota who was fortunate enough to form a small tight friends group in elementary school who also proved themselves worthy of her affection by being precocious readers:
- Georgie, Sage's best friend since kindergarten, when her mother (terrified of Sage becoming a miserable loner like Gay Cousin Rachel who Never Comes Home For Christmas) seized on the other precocious reader in class and started arranging playdates with feverish speed. Sensible, driven, raised by an overprotective mom who never got out of town and is thus double determined to Get Out Of Town. Friends outside of Sage: church youth group
- Arielle, the dramatic friend, with inattentive divorced parents, a moderate case of main character syndrome, and a rich life of the imagination often expressed through implausible lies about her past. Passionate in her enthusiasms but will not stop obnoxiously sending you fanfiction that you do not care about. Friends outside of Sage: drama club
- Hilary, the chillest friend; always delighted to run with any bit that she's given and make it more fun and funny, but holds her own emotional cards close to the chest. Has a very nice boyfriend and never talks about him. Wonderful to hang out with at any time but is planning for pre-med so will almost certainly be far too busy to stay in close touch with anyone when they scatter. Friends outside of Sage: almost the entire school, everyone loves Hilary because she's a delight, and the fact that she chooses to eat lunch with Sage and Hilary and Arielle is frankly a great compliment to all of them
This has left peacefully free to hold onto grudges also formed in elementary school, continue happily hating the kids in her class that she has hated since they were all eight, and avoid going through the effort of speaking to anybody else. Unfortunately, it's senior year! College is looming, and with it new tensions and unpleasant questions, such as:
- can being a precocious reader really continue as the be-all and end-all of Sage's perception of her own self-worth? and how can she write a college essay about it?
- how much of what Arielle's told them all about her plans for college is normal bad ideas, and how much is outright lies, and how much is in fact a cry for help?
- how can Sage break it to beloved best friend Georgie that she doesn't want to go to the University of Minnesota Minneapolis, which is the ultimate apex of Georgie's ambitions, and instead kind of wants to attend a small liberal arts college somewhere in the middle of nowhere?
- but if she doesn't go to college with Georgie, will she ever successfully speak to another human being?
- and on that topic, is it possible that a Longtime Beautiful Enemy is in fact a human being worth talking to, to despite the fact that she's bad at spelling and was mean in middle school?
Sage, early on: Arielle always tries to blow on whatever flickering embers of bisexuality she finds within herself, which I admire. I'd be far more inclined to play Whack-A-Mole. And obviously part of the book is also that Sage has to stop playing Whack-A-Mole, but the big emotional question of the Longtime Beautiful Enemy subplot is less "will they kiss" [though they do, eventually] than "can Sage build an emotional connection with a new person, at the same time as she's facing fundamental shifts in all her other most important relationships?" At its heart this is a book about friendship in all its different shapes, the different kinds of ties you build with different people and the way those change with you as you grow.
And also, of course, about being judgmental about books and films and art. There's a whole other conversation that I feel like I've been coincidentally having in various different contexts about the purpose of the literary cross-reference in this sort of text; I am definitely one of the people for whom there's a profound self-indulgent pleasure in watching characters react to another work [Kage Baker's infamous Cyborgs Watch D.W. Griffith scene my beloved; what a bad idea to spend a whole chapter on it and what a delight it was for me personally] as long as I don't believe that the author believes that all right-thinking people should agree with the character's opinions. Fortunately I am in no danger of this with Sage. Sage has a LOT of opinions about books and films and art, and I disagree with many of them but so do many of Sage's friends; this, too, is one of the important shapes of friendship.
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2 May 2026 10:53 pmOn Unfair difficulty.
... actually I got to the meeting with Lann and realised it was only on Core so I started over again but eventually it was Unfair.
... I am using some builds I found on the internet and am very dubious about, but that isn't even the problem yet. The problem is I only just got to Neathholm and they're 2nd level, so I couldn't adjust anything before that anyway, and I just don't see how anyone survives that far without being stubborn and grim about reloading.
I know how to play this game! Core was going splendidly! I can remember how to fight Earth elementals even if it took a dozen tries to implement it (clue: don't get hit). I just do not see how it is anything but random numbers getting us all the way through first level.
Probably I need to build the Knight Commander completely differently but if you need to be a full level 20 caster later (yes) then you need to start as a caster getting their butt kicked now (very) and I did not figure out how to do any damage at all yet. We seem to spend a lot of time only hitting on a 20, or at best a 16. Starter characters be so squishy.
... also I should stat my characters better, KC cannot live by mental stats alone.
In short I spent I don't know how long today playing at a difficulty level I do not find fun and do not intend to go back to tomorrow.
... but others find it a solved problem so it is frustrating...
Anyone suggesting that I could stand to have a second or even third game that I play at least sometimes are not wrong.
But I want to play This One Only Different, and there are so many adventure paths I know that is so close to achievable goals...
Photo cross-post
2 May 2026 04:42 pm![]()
Sophia's 8th birthday party went very well. 12 kids, well behaved,
lots of climbing, no deaths.
Original
is here on Pixelfed.scot.
View From a Hotel Window, 5/2/26: Chicago, IL
2 May 2026 08:37 pm

I’m staying north of the river, which is unusual for me. Also, the parking lot you see in the photo isn’t for my hotel. But it is a parking lot! Forms were obeyed.
I’m on town because tomorrow I’m in conversation with Joe Abercrombie about his latest book The Devils, and if you’re curious to see us I believe tickets may still be available. If you’re not curious to see us, fine, I guess, we’ll just sit there staring awkwardly at each other for an hour or so, I mean, whatever, it’s fine. It’s fine.
Ironically, this weekend is the 35th reunion for the University of Chicago Class of 1991, of which I am a part, and I am missing those festivities for this, and I feel a bit of a heel about it. Sorry, Class of ’91. You know you’re awesome.
— JS






























